Okay, so I already know what I want - I want to wait until the baby is born to find out what it is. My husband, on the other hand, says he hates surprises (but he sure likes to surprise other people) and wants to know as soon as possible what we are having. I've always wanted a girl first, but we have a boy name picked out and haven't really been discussing a girl name since we don't agree, so I've kind of been hoping for a boy. Brody, being the man he is, wants a boy first to pass along his family name. It would also be fun to have a boy since my sister is having her boy, Cooper, next month.
So far I have had two dreams about the baby. One dream was at the doctor's office in the ultrasound and we accidentally found out it was a boy; the other was last night and I had twin girls, which was a surprise cuz we thought we were only having one baby. It was funny in the dream because I decided I would name one girl and Brody could name the other one, but he couldn't think of anything. I told Brody about the boy dream and he said we should find out, but I told him that we will just plan on a boy and be very surprised if it turns out to be a girl! Haha.
No one will change my mind and who knows if my husband will even read this post or any comments about this post to use against me in his argument, but I would like to know what everyone else thinks. I was in the room when my Kenzi was born and, after having two boys and trying not to get her heart set on a girl, Paula was so excited for the doctor to tell her it was a girl at last! That anticipation was so great and since I'm going to be doing all the work that day, I want to wait until that part of the hard work is over to find out the gender. Besides, Brody thinks that his place as the husband is in the waiting room, so if he doesn't know what we're having, that will give him a compelling reason to be in the room with me during labor. I think he knows he'll be in the doghouse if he isn't in there. I won' t be very happy with him cuz he's the only one I want in there besides the doctor and nurses.
So... what are your reasons for finding out or not finding out?
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I always like to find out because:
1-You can get gender specific things (so your boy isn't in pink carebear outfits).
2-I feel closer to them knowing who and what they are. They aren't just a baby. They are my Emma or such. I felt a greater bond once I knew what I has having.
Bah! Stacey - you are supposed to be on MY side! Hee hee.
You know I am on your side 100% Jen! My husband was the same way - wanted to find out. I never wanted to find out. I already told you my story with each kid. The first one, i let his parents talk me into finding out cause they came with me to the ultrasound & I felt too bad saying no to them. The 2nd kid I was more determined but he still wanted to find out. So we were going to split it - me not find out & him find out. The tech wouldn't let us. The 3rd one neither of us found out - and although it's fun finding out whenever you decide, there is something WAY MORE EXCITING and MAGICAL about finding out in the delivery room. I had 2 girls & #3 was a boy. I had just pulled out some gender neutral onesies & jammies & blankets (my bedding & carseats were already neutral - that's the only way to go) for the kid to wear for the first week of it's life. It's amazing how quickly you get everything you need for whatever gender though. between me shopping & friends & family bringing me gifts for the baby, there was nothing i didn't have for that kid. #4 i again didn't find out but this time my hubby did & kept it a secret from me & everyone else the whole time (cause he's good like that). It was so fun constantly trying to guess what the kid inside of me was. One week i was convinced it was a girl, the next a boy, etc. It was constantly changing. Sure her room STILL isn't put together completely because I didn't find out (so i didn't know who's room she'd be in) and she's 2 years old, but who cares? I'm a "not finding out" fan & I've done it both ways. I would think someone could never be disappointed as to what their baby was either if they waited till the delivery room but my sis-in-law was telling me her doctor said she sees people not find out & then be super disappointed in the delivery room. I think that's just wrong though. I just don't see how anyone can be disappointed in any type of baby. They're both perfectly wonderful (and drastically different) in their own ways! Good luck with your battle. I've been there! :)
Oops - kind of a long comment I guess. I type too fast & don't pay attention to how i ramble.
By the way - i think i know your "land of vegas" friend. I think we were in the same ward many years ago in North Las Vegas.
I agree with you!! I LOVED NOT knowing with my first 2. It gives you more incentive to push when the time comes... not that getting it out isn't incentive enough :) But if you don't know... you're SOOO excited to hear those words- "It's A _____"! I found out with my 3rd and I really wish I hadn't! Of course it makes things easier if you know- you can paint, buy gender specific clothes, blankets, etc... but you can always get a couple of each color and take back the ones you won't be using! That's what we did! The surprise at the end is amazing!!
Neil was dead set on not finding out what we were having. Me, being the planner type, was going to find out. Neil was VERY adament about me waiting. As time went on the idea started getting to me. I felt from the time I found out that I was pregnant that it was a boy. I always wanted a boy first too. So when time came to find out I didn't want to know. Everyone was so suprised that I didn't want to know, especially it being my first. When we told our doctor that we didn't want to find out what we were having, he laughed at us and told us that 1% of 1% of people say that and then end up finding out. The last month was the hardest. I was so moody and I threatened to just go find out...but I waited, and glad I did.
I ended up having a c-section and told the doctor we still didn't know what we were having. He was SHOCKED! I told him that when he took the baby out to not tell us. I wanted him to hold the baby up so Neil could see and then tell me what we had. That was the most amazing moment! We had a boy! Will I do it again....DEFINITELY!!
You guys are so funny! We found out because I couldn't stand it any longer and I was nervous and wanted to feel prepared or something. But I do have a friend that her husband wanted to find out so they only told him, she still has no clue and they are due January 1st, I guess he bought a bunch of stuff for the baby, but he is hiding it at his parents house until it comes, so he doesn"t ruin the surprise for her. Interesting since if I foind out and Devin didn"t I'm pretty sure I would slip up and tell him. :) About Brody wanting to stay in the waiting room, Devin is the same way, he is really nervous! Maybe they can take coaching lessons together! haha
Wow, I've never really thought about not finding out. It seems like the suspense would kill me. Then again, I remember one year that I helped my mom with everybody's Christmas gifts and I knew everything I was getting. It was the worst Christmas. I kept waiting for a surprise gift that never came. I decided that I really liked surprises and it was worth it to remain somewhat oblivious. And while I think you'd still be surprised to find out in the doctor's office, how much better to find out when you don't have to wait any longer to hold your baby. Of course I'm just speculating here since I've never been pregnant. I do think though, that if a couple waited to find out, that either parent couldn't be dead set on a particular gender to dodge the disappointment in delivery. I have a good friend that does not want any girls. With her second child she kept having baby girl dreams, could only think of girl names and the whole time was a complete mess. There was no way she was making it to delivery to find out. Luckily for her she found out it was a boy beforehand, but she was definitely one of those people who would have been disappointed in delivery.
Chicken SHIZ Brody. Real men aren't scared of after birth.
I can't wait I am way to curious!!! I think it would be fun & exciting if you could though. I might not find out on the next one since I have one boy and one girl already. Good luck and let us all know what you decide.
I wanted to know so I could prepare as much as I could, having a baby is full of enough suprises and I wanted at least something that I could plan around. However, my mum thought I was crazy she thought not knowing would help with the motivation at the end when you're tired of being in labour wanting to find out will give you that burst of energy... my burst of energy came from the nurse telling me I could eat once the baby was out, I was STARVING!
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Oh my I am such a dork, I even commented on your post. Don't worry about doing it again :)!
I believe we have discussed this before. Neither Michael or I are patient enough to wait. Besides, I am a complete and total control freak and I feel out of control as it is since this was such a surprise to begin with. I think I need to know so that I can have some plan of action and everything ready for baby squirt when he/she comes home.
You are crazy!!! I would totally have to find out for the first. I really don't want to find out if I get pregnant again because we already have one of each. It would be so exciting to be surprised!!! FOR ME, I think if you find out for the first, it doesn't matter if you find out or not for the second because all you really need is some jammies in the beginning, and you will be set because you've already had one. If you don't find out, you won't have a shower until after, and you won't be as prepared. HOWEVER, it would be so exciting! Can't wait to hear what you decide!
not like i would know from experience or anything but i think it would be better to find out the gender of the baby for the first one..then let the next one be a suprise :)
I'm not sure if you've already decided on this, I'm a little behind on checking blogs. :) But, we decided to find out just so we could plan things ahead of time. But, there are SOO many cute gender neutral bedding sets, etc. out there so I can definitely see the thrill in waiting until your little baby is here to find out. That would be an amazing surprise and treat in the delivery room. Although, knowing our little babe was a boy was equally as exciting just to hold your little one in your arms ... wow, there's NOTHING in the world like that feeling. I just bawled. You will LOVE it! I still feel that way when I look at his cute face, birth is such an amazing miracle.
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